Love across borders: Ross’ story

Approximately one third of all foreign-born adults in the UK entered the country through family reunification, while many others who arrived for different reasons later chose to marry a British citizen. Behind these figures are everyday lives, relationships, and families navigating love, belonging, and uncertainty. What does it mean to love across borders, to marry a foreign resident, and to raise a family that brings together two worlds?

In this episode, I speak with Ross, a British citizen married to a Polish woman. They met at work, fell in love, chose to marry, and eventually welcomed a daughter. In our conversation, Ross opens his heart and speaks candidly about how their relationship has grown over time, shaped by the ordinary joys and pressures of family life, but also by the weight of rising anti-immigration sentiment and increasingly restrictive rules affecting immigrants and new residents.

Alongside these challenges, Ross reflects on the quiet richness of transnational family life: the gift of multiple languages, layered identities, and a sense of belonging that reaches beyond borders. At its core, his story is one of care, resilience, and hope.

Ross’s deepest wish is for a world in which acceptance of diversity sits at the heart of how people relate to one another.

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